What happens when the wheels come off the wagon, the train jumps the track, and everything melts into a puddle of nope?
In this raw, deeply personal solo episode, Donn King pulls back the curtain on life as a caregiver in crisis mode. With honesty, humor, and hard-won wisdom, he offers seven ways to keep going when stopping isn’t an option, and the finish line is nowhere in sight.
Whether you're caregiving, grieving, exhausted, or simply overwhelmed, this episode will remind you: you are not alone, and your next small step still matters.
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Practical tips from the episode
A quote to ponder
A topic index with timestamps
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You know someone who needs this encouragement.
✨ Subscriber-Only Content
1. 💡 The Big Takeaway
Resilience isn’t about pushing through at full strength. It’s about showing up faithfully, one breath, one task, one moment at a time.
2. 📌 Bulleted Summary
The reality of crisis-phase caregiving: 108 hours of responsibility in a 168-hour week
Why silence around hardship makes people feel more alone, and how to break that silence
Seven practical and compassionate ways to carry on when everything has collapsed
Reflections on strength, presence, and the gift of being disillusioned
The challenge (and comfort) of living without a foreseeable end to the current crisis
The vital importance of being seen, even if just for five minutes
3. 🛠️ Practical Tips
Journal or voice-record your uncensored feelings. “Give them air so they don’t rot inside you.”
Use micro-relief tools like a hand over your heart, a five-minute reset timer, or a smooth worry stone in your pocket.
Ask ruthless questions: “What happens if I don’t do this?” “What is good enough instead of ideal?”
Allow yourself to disappoint someone a little so you don’t collapse completely.
Create mini-rituals like lighting a candle, repeating a phrase, or writing a nightly sentence, such as, “Today, I showed up.”
Say one true thing out loud each day, such as, “This is impossible. But I’m doing it anyway.”
4. 🧠 Quote to Ponder
“We've never really known the future. We've only ever lived moment to moment, step to step, breath to breath. We've lived with the illusion of predictability. Now we've literally been disillusioned. And maybe, strangely, that's a kind of gift.”
5. ⏱ Topic Index with Timestamps (Estimated)
00:00 – Intro and sponsor highlights
05:00 – Why this solo episode now? A caregiver’s reality
10:00 – Language for crisis: when it all goes pear-shaped…
11:00 – Seven Ways to Stay When You Can’t Leave
11:20 – #1: Acknowledge the truth without judgment
13:30 – #2: Micro relief and micro control
15:55 – #3: Ruthless mental simplification
20:50 – #4: Talk back to the isolation
24:50 – #5: Redefine strength as softness
26:45 – #6: Ritualize something, anything
30:15 – #7: Say one true thing each day
33:00 – Reflection: “This isn’t new. It’s just deeper.”
36:00 – Final encouragement: “You are still here.”
With our next post, we will provide paid subscribers a downloadable PDF with the seven ways along with some discussion about each. You’ll receive that, even if you just sign up as a paid subscriber for a month!
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